I want to talk about the difference between PvP players who want to win, versus people online who are trolls or whatever meme is current this week to call idiots out as idiots, because I think people sometimes lump the two together. This is somewhat inspired by Syp’s post about LoL, although I want to be clear that I’m not targeting him or anything (it’s not Friday and all that). Rather his post about avoiding the crowd and playing bots just kinda got me thinking. (Although to echo what I said on his site, how he enjoys playing against bots in LoL is indeed beyond me)
I don’t troll when I’m playing a ranked game of LoL, but I’m also not that “hey team, let’s all have fun! We are all here to have a good time, win or lose!” guy either. Actually I hate people like that. If you don’t care about winning, why are you playing ranked? If your skin is so thin that being called out by your team for playing poorly, most likely not in a PC way, is going to ruin the game for you, don’t play. This expectation that everyone should play nice all the time, no matter how horrible you are as a player, makes no sense to me.
There is a massive difference between someone intentionally feeding (trolling), and someone feeding so hard it looks like its intentional. The troll thing is going to happen, it’s the internet and you can’t punch idiots in the face when they act up, so they get away with it. But if your play is so bad that it looks like you are intentionally feeding, you should EXPECT to get called out on it. You just ruined a game for four other people. 20 minutes or more of my life I can’t get back because you screwed up, repeatedly.
Which is not to say I’ve never had such a game. I have. But when I do, and when the team chat gets ugly, I don’t cry myself to sleep asking why the world is so cruel. When you fuck up you should expect, and honestly, hope, that someone is going to care enough to point it out. It’s asking too much of the internet to also show you how NOT to keep fucking up, or to point it out kindly, but it’s not like you don’t have ample resources available to you to figure it out.
People that “don’t mind” losing drive me nuts. Who the hell takes pride in a “good effort champ” trophy? To steal a phrase, it’s completely fake life. In real life, ‘trying’ means nothing if ultimately trying resulting in failing. The result matters, not the approach. You don’t get points on your year-end review at work for trying on that project you totally botched. You don’t get a break because you put a lot of effort in your research when your stock portfolio tanks. Yet somehow in fake life land, we should accept failure and not react to it? What?
And ultimately, the ‘why’ behind being flamed is far more important than the ‘what’. Whether someone just calls you stupid, or writes out a detailed essay about how you should die for being a bleep bleep, the end-game is the same; don’t do that. And if you accept the ‘why’, and next time you don’t feed or wipe the raid or whatever, suddenly the internet is a fun place full of rainbows and GGs. But you are never going to reach rainbow land if you stay in “never care/try” world. Your choice of course, but IMO you are missing out. Rainbows are pretty sweet.